It is not a choice you make through feeling or emotion. It is better to take the decision with understanding, because it is a risk that involves your life and future. Considering the fact that you may be free to make your choice but you are not free to choose the consequences of your choosing -the natural law decision on that. It is a fact that lies is a risk, since you cannot always have all the facts that will show you whether the choice you’ve made or about to make is right or wrong. For example: conception is a risky job for the wife. For nine months her orientation turns upside down, the discomfort and pain, sleepless nights, and the rest. But the goal or the desire to bring forth a child and become a mother strengthens and emboldens her to go all the way with joy, even though she knows the danger in the process. In the same way, the benefits that come with making success of entrepreneurial couple demand we take the risk. But the greatest fear of the wife is that peradventure the husband decides to take another wife, who will now come and be at par with her despite her contribution to their growth and success. This is a genuine fear, which is man made. But who tells you your own husband would thread that path? It is better to settle that in your mind with God as you embark on the journey. Generalization is a dangerous assumption in marriage. Prejudging your spouse is heading for marital dissolution. The devastating experience of your friend does not mean you would have the same. No two individuals are alike. It is not wise to compare your spouse with another person’s (Corinthian. 10:12). Your choice is your responsibility.
Back in 1987, one of our supplier discovered we were in business together. She called my attention to the d anger ahead, moreso, with step children. I told her we have settle that. About six months later, she came to tell me my husband was dating another lady in her area. Goodnews, I told her even though I was surprised, I did not show it. Told her if my husband were to take another wife, he would tell me. She was angry at my reply and left. Thank God, though I was angry did not take it up with my husband her we are today testifying to God’s faithfulness.
Even on my husband’s side, out of concern for what some women could not, he was cautious also. A relation of his came to challenge him (my husband) on why he should put me in charge of sales when his own blood sister was with us. His own fear was that I could be diverting money to my own account without my husband knowing. (this is a genuine concern, I could advise my son or brother likewise but the truth is that risk has to be taken to prove your sincerity.) According to woman is my wife, she had children for me and I trust her. If she should take my money, she would spend it on my children, I trust her, and I believe God is in control.” That settled the matter. The bottom line is trust. If you cannot trust your spouse, how then do you want him or her to trust you? The word says, “Give and it shall come back to you.” Without risk, there is no honour. You have to give a system a chance before you conclude it cannot work
Form the onset, my husband has shown himself as somebody can discover his trust worthiness in out relationship but me, it is my responsibility. My conviction about him helped my decision. He also holds on to God for justification as he deals with me in trust. There is no way you will go this far without one or two mistakes, we are not saints but God has continued to level every mountain and bring us out of every valley by his grace. When a man gives a responsible and responsive leadership, his wife will sincerely cherish and follow him. It is the duty of the man to create the stage; the wife shall surely decorate it with quality and beautiful flowers. You are blessed.